Maybe I should tune into Dr. Laura with my life lately. Peak is becoming the Dr. Phil forum.
My son gave up playing elite level hockey this year so naturally he now wants to be out on Friday nights with no 6 am practice to attend.
What would you guys do? Last night my 16 y.o. son was out. And once again he wasn't checking in like I insist. So about 8:30 pm I text him because I hadn't heard from him since about noon that day.
He texted me back "sorry" and a couple minutes later asks if he can spend the night at his friends. I tell him "no I need him to hike in with me in the morning", it is a treacherous canyon. He says Ok. 15 minutes later he texts: "I don't want to lie, I've had a couple of beers"
I was going to pick him up 25 miles away but then thought then I would have schlep cars the next day to get his car back. I told to stop drinking right now, just spend the night and be back by 8 am. He did.
Add this to my girlfriend finding a vape in his pocket doing laundry a month ago. She gave it back him told him she didn't like it and he should knock it off. She then confided in me, not wanting to circumvent my authority but then asked me not to confront him because it could hurt their relationship if he felt ratted out to Dad. I listened and let it go. But also asked him if he vaped a week or so later and he denied he does.
I am very happy he did the right thing. I am pissed some friends dad thought is was fine to give my kid beers without me knowing anything about it. Disappointed he has started drinking early, but realize I started drinking earlier than that. (it lead to problems too)
Times have changed, in CA you can go to jail for providing alcohol to a minor. You lose your license for ANY detectable alcohol as a minor, I think until you are 21.
I want to give this the right seriousness but be thankful he made the right call by being honest and not driving. I don't want him making the same mistakes I did and there is also a lot of alcoholism in his family. I did a hell of lot worse when I was young our parents used to buy the kegs as long as we wouldn't drive. But the earlier you start the more potential for abuse.
What is the balanced approach?
My son gave up playing elite level hockey this year so naturally he now wants to be out on Friday nights with no 6 am practice to attend.
What would you guys do? Last night my 16 y.o. son was out. And once again he wasn't checking in like I insist. So about 8:30 pm I text him because I hadn't heard from him since about noon that day.
He texted me back "sorry" and a couple minutes later asks if he can spend the night at his friends. I tell him "no I need him to hike in with me in the morning", it is a treacherous canyon. He says Ok. 15 minutes later he texts: "I don't want to lie, I've had a couple of beers"
I was going to pick him up 25 miles away but then thought then I would have schlep cars the next day to get his car back. I told to stop drinking right now, just spend the night and be back by 8 am. He did.
Add this to my girlfriend finding a vape in his pocket doing laundry a month ago. She gave it back him told him she didn't like it and he should knock it off. She then confided in me, not wanting to circumvent my authority but then asked me not to confront him because it could hurt their relationship if he felt ratted out to Dad. I listened and let it go. But also asked him if he vaped a week or so later and he denied he does.
I am very happy he did the right thing. I am pissed some friends dad thought is was fine to give my kid beers without me knowing anything about it. Disappointed he has started drinking early, but realize I started drinking earlier than that. (it lead to problems too)
Times have changed, in CA you can go to jail for providing alcohol to a minor. You lose your license for ANY detectable alcohol as a minor, I think until you are 21.
I want to give this the right seriousness but be thankful he made the right call by being honest and not driving. I don't want him making the same mistakes I did and there is also a lot of alcoholism in his family. I did a hell of lot worse when I was young our parents used to buy the kegs as long as we wouldn't drive. But the earlier you start the more potential for abuse.
What is the balanced approach?
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