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Hey guys, for those who have been married or divorced after a long marriage you understand that it's work and if you have been together you know there is a low point and then you reach a new understanding and acceptance. For us it was 5 years ago when I decided I would be happier somewhere else. Boy was I wrong, I had everything I wanted all along at home. Its been 21 years, 3 grown boys, bankruptcy and a move 1300 miles away now and there is no looking back.
Fast forward to a younger married couple of four years, ten years younger and with a two year old. We have been friends since shortly after their marriage and initially they came to us for advice, but familiarity brings contempt and when we didn't agree with some of their decisions (they asked and we simply said, we would do it differently) they have not seen us in the same light. Bow worries, if you want a irresponsible frat brother who lives with his parents at 30 and his girlfriend to be the god parents of your child thats your choice, but I think you could make a better one.
Now, from time to time the wife calls my wife and asks her to ask me to talk to the gusband about such and so behavior. Now, I am no one , but I care about these people and when she called last night I said, let him cool down and we can talk tomorrow. We met for beers and lunch and I was kind and said how we were concerned, but is their life and to say nothing if it wasn't my business. He spun a story and by the time I got home the wife was blaming my wife for the esculated situation. Of course we were frustrated and pissed. We have been dealing with these requests for 3 years and doing our best even though we don't want to get involved but the crying and the fear cause us to move.
But, honestly I want to throw in the towel after she said, why did you tell him to lie (sorry I didn't repeat your words verbatim...she asked me to get ahold of him and I said, go find him). Damn, you asked for help, I tried, he yells at you and you blame my wife for s shitty marriage.
Anyway, whem is enough enough? We have been trying for three years and these guys are just faking it, but he is my work out partner and I had to walk away. However, this shit is getting old.
Hawk
Fast forward to a younger married couple of four years, ten years younger and with a two year old. We have been friends since shortly after their marriage and initially they came to us for advice, but familiarity brings contempt and when we didn't agree with some of their decisions (they asked and we simply said, we would do it differently) they have not seen us in the same light. Bow worries, if you want a irresponsible frat brother who lives with his parents at 30 and his girlfriend to be the god parents of your child thats your choice, but I think you could make a better one.
Now, from time to time the wife calls my wife and asks her to ask me to talk to the gusband about such and so behavior. Now, I am no one , but I care about these people and when she called last night I said, let him cool down and we can talk tomorrow. We met for beers and lunch and I was kind and said how we were concerned, but is their life and to say nothing if it wasn't my business. He spun a story and by the time I got home the wife was blaming my wife for the esculated situation. Of course we were frustrated and pissed. We have been dealing with these requests for 3 years and doing our best even though we don't want to get involved but the crying and the fear cause us to move.
But, honestly I want to throw in the towel after she said, why did you tell him to lie (sorry I didn't repeat your words verbatim...she asked me to get ahold of him and I said, go find him). Damn, you asked for help, I tried, he yells at you and you blame my wife for s shitty marriage.
Anyway, whem is enough enough? We have been trying for three years and these guys are just faking it, but he is my work out partner and I had to walk away. However, this shit is getting old.
Hawk
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