Is this ef'd up of me?

alluprbdy

alluprbdy

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Okay well this may be wrong but need some outside input. My little bro is pissed at me and thinks I'm a total asshole. Okay well I have a kid I've been friends with like 1.5 years now. We are pretty close, I'd say we prob hangout 1-2x a week. Now he has an Ex that he is obsessed with, like infatuated with is prob a better term. They went out for 7 months, 4-years ago. In the past 4-years she has booty called him 3x which just makes him more attached. My boy is pretty crazy, on meds and admits he is out of his mind. She doesn't want anything with him and tells me each of the 3x she did have sex with him she felt like a pos afterwards. She actually has a restraining order on him b/c when she broke up with him 4 years ago he put her in a choke hold, I didnt know about this til last night he always told me she is just crazy. Well I became friends with this girl like a little over a week ago.

She is recently single and we have talked pretty much all day every day. Well two nights ago we were talking about guys and girls being friends and I mention that I dont hit on my friends that are girls out of respect for them. She mentions maybe we shouldnt be friends b/c long term she doesnt just want to be friends. So I tell her there's no way I can do anything with her as my boy is obsessed with her. So yesterday we are talking all day again pretty much and she hungout with some total fuking loser who as she walked in to hang with him is smoking percocet! yes really that happens? wtf. So I bitch her out and tell her she needs to leave right now b/c your a pos if you go out to eat with some scum bag drug addict like that. She goes on to say these are the only guys that like me, good guys hate me thanks for being a perfect example bla bla. Well more of the day goes on and she brings up us hanging out and that she thinks its fucked up that I wont hang with her b/c of someone she dated 4 years ago. Eventually she def talks me into hanging out with her. Now mind you this girl is retarded hot. Amazing looking in every way, and I'm pretty damn picky. I also have been looking to settle down for a few months now and cant find anything but party girls. We hang last night, dont bang her just hook up or whatever. But I def feel terrible for my boy, and really dont know what to do? Like I dont think its his place to lay claim to a girl he dated years ago for such a short time, yet I know he does lay claim. This will 100% end our friendship when/if he finds out. I do legitimately like the girl and I'm not just in it to fuk her. I need help bro's!!!I'm not usually conflicted with things like this, as I typically have no conscience. Sorry for the longgggg rant.
 
Smoking percocet?? Ive never heard of that lol...Ive been in this situation before.I decided to date my friends ex when he was still obsessed with her.Me and him dont talk anymore.But if she doesnt have feelings for him and has feelings for u then u need to follow your heart especially if u really like her....
 
alluprbdy said:
Okay well this may be wrong but need some outside input. My little bro is pissed at me and thinks I'm a total asshole. Okay well I have a kid I've been friends with like 1.5 years now. We are pretty close, I'd say we prob hangout 1-2x a week. Now he has an Ex that he is obsessed with, like infatuated with is prob a better term. They went out for 7 months, 4-years ago. In the past 4-years she has booty called him 3x which just makes him more attached. My boy is pretty crazy, on meds and admits he is out of his mind. She doesn't want anything with him and tells me each of the 3x she did have sex with him she felt like a pos afterwards. She actually has a restraining order on him b/c when she broke up with him 4 years ago he put her in a choke hold, I didnt know about this til last night he always told me she is just crazy. Well I became friends with this girl like a little over a week ago.

She is recently single and we have talked pretty much all day every day. Well two nights ago we were talking about guys and girls being friends and I mention that I dont hit on my friends that are girls out of respect for them. She mentions maybe we shouldnt be friends b/c long term she doesnt just want to be friends. So I tell her there's no way I can do anything with her as my boy is obsessed with her. So yesterday we are talking all day again pretty much and she hungout with some total fuking loser who as she walked in to hang with him is smoking percocet! yes really that happens? wtf. So I bitch her out and tell her she needs to leave right now b/c your a pos if you go out to eat with some scum bag drug addict like that. She goes on to say these are the only guys that like me, good guys hate me thanks for being a perfect example bla bla. Well more of the day goes on and she brings up us hanging out and that she thinks its fucked up that I wont hang with her b/c of someone she dated 4 years ago. Eventually she def talks me into hanging out with her. Now mind you this girl is retarded hot. Amazing looking in every way, and I'm pretty damn picky. I also have been looking to settle down for a few months now and cant find anything but party girls. We hang last night, dont bang her just hook up or whatever. But I def feel terrible for my boy, and really dont know what to do? Like I dont think its his place to lay claim to a girl he dated years ago for such a short time, yet I know he does lay claim. This will 100% end our friendship when/if he finds out. I do legitimately like the girl and I'm not just in it to fuk her. I need help bro's!!!I'm not usually conflicted with things like this, as I typically have no conscience. Sorry for the longgggg rant.
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if hes as fucked up as you say, and she was with him. sorry to say, shes fucked up too. then she strung him along with booty calls? You are lookin for a nightmare. Trust me, I love crazy chicks.
 
clutchitalian said:
Smoking percocet?? Ive never heard of that lol...Ive been in this situation before.I decided to date my friends ex when he was still obsessed with her.Me and him dont talk anymore.But if she doesnt have feelings for him and has feelings for u then u need to follow your heart especially if u really like her....
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lol, I've heard of it like on TV. Didn't think anyone actually did it. She asked the kid "do you like smoke crack too?". How did you tell your friend? Did you wait til after something developed? Like our plan right now is to wait as long as possible to tell him. She is a cool chick, doenst have issue with gear, has no issue with me wanting to be huge. Into cars, huge deal being I'm obsessed with drag racing and spend a small fortune on my car.
 
incrediblehawk said:
if hes as fucked up as you say, and she was with him. sorry to say, shes fucked up too. then she strung him along with booty calls? You are lookin for a nightmare. Trust me, I love crazy chicks.
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Ya I mean just to date my friend for 7 months proves she is a little crazy as well. I cant date totally normal girls tho, they are too boring.
 
alluprbdy said:
lol, I've heard of it like on TV. Didn't think anyone actually did it. She asked the kid "do you like smoke crack too?". How did you tell your friend? Did you wait til after something developed? Like our plan right now is to wait as long as possible to tell him. She is a cool chick, doenst have issue with gear, has no issue with me wanting to be huge. Into cars, huge deal being I'm obsessed with drag racing and spend a small fortune on my car.
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arent they all just super groovy in the beginning??? I tell em what they wanna here too! "I loved The Notebook! I can only tell you that sweety." << im sensitive and confide and trust. yet i am assertive and confident. wow, I am dreamy!

alluprbdy said:
Ya I mean just to date my friend for 7 months proves she is a little crazy as well. I cant date totally normal girls tho, they are too boring.
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Yeah just keep the gear usage on the DL. that shit will haunt ya.
 
Ehh there's no hiding the gear usage here bro, impossible. I was pretty damn huge in HS and never really cared to hide it then. If you are from my school you know I use gear. I've never been ashamed of it. And ya girls are always great in the beginning and doesnt take long til they suck, but I aint getting any younger hawk and dont know how long I will be able to pull these hot young broads.
 
alluprbdy said:
Ehh there's no hiding the gear usage here bro, impossible. I was pretty damn huge in HS and never really cared to hide it then. If you are from my school you know I use gear. I've never been ashamed of it. And ya girls are always great in the beginning and doesnt take long til they suck, but I aint getting any younger hawk and dont know how long I will be able to pull these hot young broads.
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its one thing that they assume, but admission is another story. I look like i am on steroids. people ask me, i dont say yes, i dont say no. its my fkn business. Im 41 and still get hit on by young chicks bro. your voice gets women 1st then your looks. or is it your cash? i forget. lol

all i am saying is be careful.
 
I'm sure your friend will be there for you when she's long gone and I agree with Hawk, dude why would you even mention gear to her.. Keep that shit to yourself hell it was a while before I told my wife and she knows a lot of bad shit on me I just don't like to add to the list! lol
 
incrediblehawk said:
its one thing that they assume, but admission is another story. I look like i am on steroids. people ask me, i dont say yes, i dont say no. its my fkn business. Im 41 and still get hit on by young chicks bro. your voice gets women 1st then your looks. or is it your cash? i forget. lol

all i am saying is be careful.
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ha ya I hear you bro, I dont like walk around telling ppl I use gear. However if I'm interested in a girl I ask her pretty quickly if its an issue. I hid use before in a prior relationship and I will never do it again. Total nightmare. That's my lifestyle and whoever I'm with needs to accept it.
 
Two points:

One determine how good of friends you are with this guy. I have made the mistake of hooking up with one of my closest friends girl that he dated in high school 5 years after the fact. Well our friendship has never been the same and if I could go back I would not go through with it. Even though it was a highschool relationship some girls are just off limits and she was one of them for him. I should have known better.

Second I have also been with the crazies. Ha. Yep they are the best in bed and certainly make your life more interesting however it is not for the better. In the end it usually works out to not being worth it. So if you determine that this friendship does not mean that much to you then I say fuck her one night all night and never again.
 
-JP- said:
Two points:

One determine how good of friends you are with this guy. I have made the mistake of hooking up with one of my closest friends girl that he dated in high school 5 years after the fact. Well our friendship has never been the same and if I could go back I would not go through with it. Even though it was a highschool relationship some girls are just off limits and she was one of them for him. I should have known better.

Second I have also been with the crazies. Ha. Yep they are the best in bed and certainly make your life more interesting however it is not for the better. In the end it usually works out to not being worth it. So if you determine that this friendship does not mean that much to you then I say fuck her one night all night and never again.
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Well I mean I like my friend and all, but he's not like going to be in my wedding or anything. I've been friends with him 1.5 years and most likely when I stop going out to the bar we wont be friends anymore. I understand what your saying with the crazy's but I wouldnt ruin any friendship over a 1 nighter. Even I think thats fuked up. I was with a booring non crazy for 5.5 years, never again. It isnt just the sex is better life is more interesting. Like literally this booring chick is so straight and would never do anything illegal ever like its making you a terrible person. Hell last time I hung out with my ex as friends. We went out to get a late night pizza with my buddy and his fiance. my buddy was driving his car and his fiance was in the passenger seat slamming down a beer. My ex was litteraly mad at her for doing this. Like she's gonna get in trouble over it. That shit is ghey I cant stand it.
 
alluprbdy said:
ha ya I hear you bro, I dont like walk around telling ppl I use gear. However if I'm interested in a girl I ask her pretty quickly if its an issue. I hid use before in a prior relationship and I will never do it again. Total nightmare. That's my lifestyle and whoever I'm with needs to accept it.
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on the flipside, i confided in "the one" and she sent a letter to my corp office. I live by "no ask, no tell"
 
alluprbdy said:
Well I mean I like my friend and all, but he's not like going to be in my wedding or anything. I've been friends with him 1.5 years and most likely when I stop going out to the bar we wont be friends anymore. I understand what your saying with the crazy's but I wouldnt ruin any friendship over a 1 nighter. Even I think thats fuked up. I was with a booring non crazy for 5.5 years, never again. It isnt just the sex is better life is more interesting. Like literally this booring chick is so straight and would never do anything illegal ever like its making you a terrible person. Hell last time I hung out with my ex as friends. We went out to get a late night pizza with my buddy and his fiance. my buddy was driving his car and his fiance was in the passenger seat slamming down a beer. My ex was litteraly mad at her for doing this. Like she's gonna get in trouble over it. That shit is ghey I cant stand it.
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Well shit you were not just with a boring chick you were with a born again christian. Ha there are plenty girls that fall in the middle. Find one of them you would be surprised how much better it is even then the crazy ones.

If your not going to be friends with him once you stop going to the bars he is not a good friend barely a friend so that should not stop you. I still say fuck her one night and only one night. Protect yourself that way.
 
incrediblehawk said:
on the flipside, i confided in "the one" and she sent a letter to my corp office. I live by "no ask, no tell"
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lol, ya bro that would leave a bad taste in my mouth as well. I guess we have all had different experiences with this lifestyle.
 
-JP- said:
Well shit you were not just with a boring chick you were with a born again christian. Ha there are plenty girls that fall in the middle. Find one of them you would be surprised how much better it is even then the crazy ones.

If your not going to be friends with him once you stop going to the bars he is not a good friend barely a friend so that should not stop you. I still say fuck her one night and only one night. Protect yourself that way.
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lol, ya man she was a dork. It's fukin hard to find a chick man, trust me. I find plenty that want to get fucked but ones that actually are looking for more than that is hard. I dont want to push my luck and end up settling for a less attractive girl b/c I waited to long to wife one up. I've had a lot fun but wouldnt mind settling down somewhat at least. I'm only 26 but I'd like to be married by 30.
 
alluprbdy said:
lol, ya man she was a dork. It's fukin hard to find a chick man, trust me. I find plenty that want to get fucked but ones that actually are looking for more than that is hard. I dont want to push my luck and end up settling for a less attractive girl b/c I waited to long to wife one up. I've had a lot fun but wouldnt mind settling down somewhat at least. I'm only 26 but I'd like to be married by 30.
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I hear you I thought the same thing when I was 26. I am now 30 not married. HA. Truth be told I am probably not married because I wasted so much time on crazy girls. Luckily I never married one of them in particular. My life would have been hell. I know whats important to look for now in a relationship. You can't force it just has to happen. I will never allow myself to waste more then one night on a girl like that ever again. Thankfully I find it unattractive now.
 
i'd see what happens with the girl. His "claim" (as if you can claim a girl) expired years ago. He needs to get over it.

I would tell him as soon as things seemed like they could work out long run. If he cares about both of you, he'll have to accept it. If he doesn't like it, you lose your friend like will happen when you stop going to the bars anyway.

Friends and women will both come and go, just choose what is best for you.
 
Magnesium said:
i'd see what happens with the girl. His "claim" (as if you can claim a girl) expired years ago. He needs to get over it.

I would tell him as soon as things seemed like they could work out long run. If he cares about both of you, he'll have to accept it. If he doesn't like it, you lose your friend like will happen when you stop going to the bars anyway.

Friends and women will both come and go, just choose what is best for you.
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thanks Mag, I agree 100% with that.
 
ugh huge relief off my shoulders, my buddy texted me last night saying he thinks Mel (his ex) likes me. I of course dont mention Hey, I got with her last night. But we talk and he goes on to ask if I'm interested and I let him know yea as long as it aint an issue. So he said go to town bro, its all you. What a HUGE relief this is...OMFG.
 
Didnt read the whole thread, bro. you are fucked up, she is fucked up, the guy smokin percs is fucked up and your bro is fucked up.

You know what the RIGHT thing to do is, and you still want advice? At the very least I would run it by your BRO and give him a heads up saying "Hey oscar, I like this chick of yours, and is it cool if we start dating." or if you dont want him to give u an option it would be like "hey oscar I like this chick of yours a lot and she is growing on me, I tried but I gotta tell you man, I mma have to date her."
 
lol, too funny guys. Def best sex I've had in a while tho. Chicks just cant resist tattoo's and muscles brudda's
 
incrediblehawk said:
just tell your bro that her vagina tastes like his penis, you homo!

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LMFAO!!!! Well I'm glad it's worked out for you dude, If it helps man my Ex wifes name was Melanie and she was a crazy Bitch too!! lol
 
Freezerdude said:
LMFAO!!!! Well I'm glad it's worked out for you dude, If it helps man my Ex wifes name was Melanie and she was a crazy Bitch too!! lol
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lol ya well we will see. She's hot and fun for now at least. I gotta try. Everyone else I've talked to suckkkkks
 
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