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Lethalius

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I feel funny bringing this topic up. I am engaged to a wonderful woman that I love a lot. I've known since I met her that she likes to occasionally go out with her girlfriends to cut loose and dance. A couple of her girlfriends are single so naturally they will want to get some guys to dance with them. I am pretty sure there are times that there are guys dancing with my girl and it makes me jealous - not crazy jealous, but a little bit. The reason is, I have only gotten to dance with her twice in the 7 months we have been together. I am not a big dancer and it takes usually several drinks before I can loosen up for it, so maybe that's part of the reason. Anyways, I trust her 100% that she is faithful to me - that is something I feel strongly about and we have a great connection.

As long as she is faithful to me, should I even care if a guy occasionally wants to dance with her as long as that is all it is? A woman's perspective would be nice here too. She is great to me and is very loving toward me. Part of me wonders though if since we are now engaged that maybe she should consider putting the partying/dancing with the girls behind her? In your opinion, is that appropriate kind of behavior for a woman that is now engaged with a ring on her finger? I just don't know, and I don't want to be controlling and want her to be able to be the person she needs to be. After all, she never complains about me playing a lot of softball or lifting weights and she never says a word about my aas useage and supports me there as long as I am careful.

I guess I feel jealous because I know she is out of town for 4 days for a business convention and I know she is going out with her co-worker girlfriends and a couple guys with them dancing to the clubs and I can't be there with her to enjoy this part of her. Again, I feel certain she is faithful to me and I trust her there.

If this is too wordy or doesn't make sense, it's cuz it's like 5 am and I am tired and should be sleeping.

Leth
 
i think its healthy 4 her 2 do that... i am like u... u know who she goes home with..u... but my girl usually dances with other women... she just loves to dance... and if a guy dances with her i just watch like a hawk... but usually she will run over and grab me if a guy tries to...

if you know she is faithful and loves you bro... its all good

jealousy is a female trait - Jay-Z
 
That's cool bro. That is what I needed to hear. I get a little jealous but I am pretty certain she is mainly dancing with her girlfriends cuz she loves to dance. It's probably very healthy for her and it's also great exercise and she goes home with me and loves only me, so why make a deal of it right? I agree that jealousy is a female trait.
 
meateater said:
LEARN TO DANCE!
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I agree that I need to become a better dancer and will dance with her when the opportunity presents itself. (Probably 70-80% of guys out there cannot dance any better than I can - just an observation of mine. So I don't think that's why we have only danced twice).

Also, she usually goes out with her girls when I am having to work evening or night shift. And this time, she is out of town where I cannot be, so that is part of why I am jealous too.
 
hmmmm.. i wouldnt want my fiance dancing with other guys..
let me rephrase i wouldnt make a girl my fiance that still needs to dance with other guys for the relationship to be "healthy." but thats jmo.

but there is nothing you can do. i guess. except talk to her.. how hard is it to dance?? is she into some crazy salsa dancing or are u talking bout just moving to the groove?
 
She just dances hip hop mostly, some country rarely. Hip-hop is easy for most to get away with and look okay. I don't have a problem with doing hip-hop. I am 40 yrs old and probably slightly old fashioned - she is 33 so from a little bit different generation I suppose. Back in the day, even when I was growing up as a kid, a guy would ask permition to dance with another man's girl - and if that man said yes to him, so be it, if he said no, the guy would respect that and walk away. But it was something of respect. I think the times we live in today, people have lost that respect for one another. And guys like me end up feeling jealous and a bit hurt inside.
 
Dont be that insecure person homey.....Nothing worse than that in a relationship.....Besides it will bite you in the ass later if you try and take shit away from her(girlfriends, girls nights out, etc.), trust me.....Once you have been married a while your going to want that for yourself, trust me you will....and if you have been insecure or shown some kind of jealosy, she will just do the same to you and it will give her reason to not want you to hang out with the guys or guys night out, or anything without her for that matter......And i cant stress this enough, you WILL want those things for yourself.....You will NEED those things for yourself......Oh marriage, such a wonderful thing.....
 
Dont be that insecure person homey.....Nothing worse than that in a relationship.....Besides it will bite you in the ass later if you try and take shit away from her(girlfriends, girls nights out, etc.), trust me.....Once you have been married a while your going to want that for yourself, trust me you will....and if you have been insecure or shown some kind of jealosy, she will just do the same to you and it will give her reason to not want you to hang out with the guys or guys night out, or anything without her for that matter......And i cant stress this enough, you WILL want those things for yourself.....You will NEED those things for yourself......Oh marriage, such a wonderful thing.....
 
CO-B16 said:
Dont be that insecure person homey.....Nothing worse than that in a relationship.....Besides it will bite you in the ass later if you try and take shit away from her(girlfriends, girls nights out, etc.), trust me.....Once you have been married a while your going to want that for yourself, trust me you will....and if you have been insecure or shown some kind of jealosy, she will just do the same to you and it will give her reason to not want you to hang out with the guys or guys night out, or anything without her for that matter......And i cant stress this enough, you WILL want those things for yourself.....You will NEED those things for yourself......Oh marriage, such a wonderful thing.....
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might as well quote my double post......

p.s. I cant stress this enough.....
 
MARRIED WOMEN are fun to dance with..and they go straight for the kill, they dont fuck around..:D
 
LOL W/E NIGGAS... I DONT CARE IF SHE DANCES WITH SOMEONE...if she wants to leave me for him so what... if thats what she wants... i got to the point to where shit like that dont bother me... but what i am saying if he puts his hands on her and she dont want that i will step in...

no i am a whit boy i can not dance...
 
Hey im a white boy that can dance.....I only do the 8th grade slow dance though....
 
CO-B16 said:
Dont be that insecure person homey.....Nothing worse than that in a relationship.....Besides it will bite you in the ass later if you try and take shit away from her(girlfriends, girls nights out, etc.), trust me.....Once you have been married a while your going to want that for yourself, trust me you will....and if you have been insecure or shown some kind of jealosy, she will just do the same to you and it will give her reason to not want you to hang out with the guys or guys night out, or anything without her for that matter......And i cant stress this enough, you WILL want those things for yourself.....You will NEED those things for yourself......Oh marriage, such a wonderful thing.....
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Thank you for the advice Bro. It's solid and what I needed to hear. I know that marriage is not going to be blissful everyday and will present many challenges. Like I say, I trust her, she only comes home with me and is mainly just out there dancing with her girlfriends - sometimes a guy or two gets in the mix. I don't want to be that jealous, controlling type of guy that puts undo pressure on my relationship with her. She is a fabulous woman and would never cheat on me period. Thanks again.
 
Lethalius said:
Thank you for the advice Bro. It's solid and what I needed to hear. I know that marriage is not going to be blissful everyday and will present many challenges. Like I say, I trust her, she only comes home with me and is mainly just out there dancing with her girlfriends - sometimes a guy or two gets in the mix. I don't want to be that jealous, controlling type of guy that puts undo pressure on my relationship with her. She is a fabulous woman and would never cheat on me period. Thanks again.
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then let her know how much you trust her and it will only make you happier in the long run also.....trust is the most important thing in a relationship, more than money, sex, and all that other crap....if there is insecurity and mistrust the relationship will be a disaster....good luck, sounds like you got a good one....
 
haha who cares is just dancing.. I use to get jelous to but one day i just let go of all of it.. As long as she isn;t being sandwiched by to negros i dont care lol.. Then you get pissed and kick some ass
 
You are fucking asking for problems. Bull fucking shit. That don't be jealous shit, leave it alone, trust her, yeah ok, remember that when she is feeling some guys dick rub up the the crack of her ass on the dance floor while you are trusting her. If the relationship is serious, then she shouldn't want to dance with other guys. That shit ain't right. Maybe you think the relationship is more serious than she does, who knows, but don't be a fag and leave yourself hanging because you "trust her", or you might be the one accidentally licking some guys cum off her lips one night.
 
ALLO said:
You are fucking asking for problems. Bull fucking shit. That don't be jealous shit, leave it alone, trust her, yeah ok, remember that when she is feeling some guys dick rub up the the crack of her ass on the dance floor while you are trusting her. If the relationship is serious, then she shouldn't want to dance with other guys. That shit ain't right. Maybe you think the relationship is more serious than she does, who knows, but don't be a fag and leave yourself hanging because you "trust her", or you might be the one accidentally licking some guys cum off her lips one night.
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LOL...........point made.
 
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