Girl/child problems

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So I need to vent somewhere. My girlfriend has twins with the guy in this pic he has this picture posted on facebook. He is extremely verbally abusive and controlling over her after a year of her being with me. He has extreme problems in his head. Two years ago when she tried to leave him he brought his guy outside to kill himself but only shot himself in the hand. (to control her) The list goes on and on

He threatens me but next to my face only to my girl on the phone. Right now I am trying to get ready for a show. I just boosted my test to 1000 a week and tren to 800. I know I could destroy him. But I am so much better than he is so I let it roll off my skin or at least try to.

Today she lets me know that she called her lawyer because of something that he did today but doesn't tell me what it is. So in return I think the worst. The thing with the lawyer is she went to one that is suppose to be really good but is best friends with the guys mom. So the lawyer hasn't been returning her calls.

I have no idea what to do guys, I need advise. She is extremely supportive with my bodybuilding, is my training partner, but this guy is sucking the life out of her. I dont know what to do and I feel helpless because talking about anything to do with her is like walking a egg shells.
 

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Bro, that guy is a dangerous freak. And if he has wielded a gun before he will do so again if he gets desperate. He could kill you all. Your girlfriend is involved with him in such a way as you may not be able to break her free. Only she has that power but as you said, he is unstable and dangerous. Try to help her find an objective lawyer. I would seek out a friend who is a policeman, if you don't have one make one. They can really give great advice in these situations. Lastly, there is free counseling available for people who are in distress like your girlfriend. She can learn skills she needs to break free from this loser.
 
Willi has some great advice bro. I wish you the best and your girlfriend. Keep us posted.
 
wow bro that's crazy I respect the fact that you can control yourself and think rationally about confronting the guy with those doses you are running. Even though you would probably destroy him as you said. Willi is absolutely right though you don't know what that guy is capable of and you avoid confrontation at all costs. Does your old lady have a restraining order against him? If not she should
 
Someone tell me why the twins have to be around this guy again?

If your girl is afraid of him take over and get it done. Legal route is best but there are other options. You take care of it. If she wont let you then you have 2 problems.
 
the lawyer could be construed as a conflict of interest.. But Big Karch would be better suited to answer if I'm right or not..
eitherway.. She needs to get a lawyer that has no ties with him or his family.

As a Man I would want to know what happened, But you really have to respect her privacy and worse case scenario, She could be thinking of you and what you might do to this guy if she told you..

The older I get, the more I want to let the law take care of things.. Maybe it's not all about my age, but more about what I have seen over the years when idiots like her EX poke and prod the new man in a woman's life either directly or as in your case .. through the wrongs he does with your girlfriend.. What winds up happening is we/you go off on the guy and it winds up being you charged with assult, battery .. whatever.. Then the guy makes sure he is around where you are and he takes pictures .. Goes to the police and sez that your harassing him and winds up getting a restraining order against you.. Then he pulls the same shit again, taking the pics.. This time though, they wind up carting your ass off to jail.. It makes for a great case against you .. why.. Because of the initial confrontation you had with the guy.. so all the other things he sets up looks kosher in the cops eyes.. Now your the bad guy

Far fetched as it sounds..I know a person that this happened to..

So in instances like this.. Call Johnny law when the guy fucks up and leave them to deal with it
 
Update: you see how big this guy is and my girl is 5'1" and 105lbs.

The lawyer situation she and him are using the same lawyer to take care of this. He somehow talked my girl into it when they separated. The lawyer finally got back to her and told her to keep the kids, if he wants to go to court for custody. She did tell me, I guess when he has the kids he is never there, he has his new girlfriend watch and she has 5 kids and only spend an hour a day with the kids on his day. They need more one on one time. The kids were sunburned because they did'nt put lotion on them, covered in dirt, they only ate once the whole day. As in the twins words "daddy and **Unnamed** were doing really important things." They were outside playing in the back yard that isn't fenced in and no one was watching them when she got there. He and her were in the front of the house watching tv. (The area of the city has a lot of problems)

Anyways the main reason why I do not do anything is because I am the better man each and every day. He isn't worth it, power without control is worthless. But if he ever tried to come at us I would do anything and everything. The twins love me, they call every night to say goodnight if I am not with them, we practice baseball every day when I am there because it is their first year playing t-ball. They have a blast. One of them walks the same way I do, the other is serious like I am around people. They are going to remember all of this stuff when they get older and really appreciate it.

She doesn't have a restraining order, I don't know why she wont get one. She doesn't deserve to get treated the way she does by him. She is the most kind, loving, gentle women I know. I am going to eventually marry her have the ring. But I am waiting to ask because I want her to take care of this stuff first.


Darkness- She felt they needed to be around their father because she never had one. But Over this time I have proved I would be a better Dad to them than him.
 
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